In one of our longer talks, we of course also came to the topics of culture, and. Therefore, they know how to handle each other. And for the record most people have to give their decision to the parents after one or two meetings which is hardly enough to know anything about someone. But not all wishes comes true. This can be very damaging. Marriage is all about taking care of the children and elderly in joint families.
The individual you cannot do that are little minded. Every major religion guarantees the legality of freedom of choice in marriage. Cons Of Arranged Marriages 1. They help preserve traditions and cultural norms. Also I have realised that when you have decided on an arranged marriage as your future, there is so much less of a pressure on you.
Recognizing same-sex relationships as marriages would legally abolish that ideal. In other words, it can be said that an arranged marriage is contracted without considering love and in most cases, compatibility first. At times they are married to, and even sold off to men who are a lot older than these young girls. Children conceived in a forced marriage environment can be seriously affected by it — either by learning that violence is acceptable, or being traumatised by witnessing it. If marriage is redefined, believing what virtually every human society once believed about marriage—a union of a man and woman ordered to procreation and family life—would be seen increasingly as a malicious prejudice to be driven to the margins of culture. I am just helping out a friend — Afghanistan born raised in Western society.
Rarely an arranged marriage takes place, when the male is of low age, socio-economic status, caste, class and even the height of the woman. We currently have two kids, one boy and one girl. There are communities that term it proper for the older man to be married off to a younger woman. This sadly means that they do not stray from their cultural background. The girls are forced into it a lot more in comparison to their male counterparts and impacts girls with more intensity.
Thus, by encouraging the marriage norms of monogamy, sexual exclusivity, and permanence, the state is strengthening civil society and reducing its own role. You can read more of her work on her blogs and Image Source:. Don't hesitate to show it! Change is coming — change in culture, change in law It takes more than a cultural change — it takes governmental change. It just confuses me how can i share the rest of my life with this guy who might not even have the same interests. Some of these protest put women under different perspective under the eyes of Indian population.
Government needs to get marriage policy right because it shapes the norms associated with this most fundamental relationship. Feeling of Alienation Since everyone but you are hands on your wedding, you may feel that it is not your wedding at all. Arranged marriage should not be confused with the practice of forced marriage. Holding my hands, blowing kisses. They are more likely to have behavioral problems, or run away from home, or become teenage parents themselves. This has been current tradition in international cultures for years and years. These can then be passed on from one generation to another and ensure their culture will be preserved.
It is in fact inviolate in some sense. Stress-Free of Finding the One There is no point stressing out on finding Mr. The norm of permanency ensures that children will at least be cared for by their mother and father until they reach maturity. Neither their bodies are prepared nor their innocent little minds. People from different cultures often see freedom of religion as a threat and are afraid of the varying views in Western societies.
I wish there was a support group for people like us. The law and culture will seek to eradicate such views through economic, social, and legal pressure. I used to mail him the horror stories of arrange marriages I read on Quora and he used to say. But for young adults who cannot see past the pursuit and passion that come from falling in love, these statistics are often merely academic. It is the fundamental building block of all human civilization. It denies the young an opportunity to grow and empower themselves. Redefining marriage would destabilize marriage in ways that are known to hurt children.